Monthly Archives: June 2012

“THE WORK” by Byron Katie ~ Berlin 30th June 2012

We are on a road trip to love ourselves more!! 

We are attending a 1 day workshop in Berlin hosted by Byron Katie whose job is to teach people how to stop suffering. Her developed concept “The Work” is a simple yet powerful process of inquiry that teaches people to identify and question the thoughts that cause all the suffering in the world. It’s a way to understand what’s hurting you, and to address the cause of the problems with clarity.

We will update you the course when we are back!!

Here is a video from youtube about her:


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My 5 self-love actions for the next 90 days?

Day 30 – Today’s home work: Create a self-love plan of 5 action items for the coming 90 days with (a) what is the action; (b) why you choose this action; and (c) what you want to achieve and (d) by when (include 3 milestones for appreciation).

The below is my 5 self-love actions that I would like to share with you:

(1) Read 3 self-love books

I dedicate 30 minutes everyday (on the way to work and back home on the metro) to read 3 self-love books to enhance my understanding about self-love. By doing so, I may search into myself deeper with the insight or guidance from the books. By the end of 90 days, I am more rich by 3 books.

Milestone: 1 book by the end of every 30 days.

(2) One statement per day

I dedicate one statement per day to myself (when I brush my teeth in the morning or just before I go to bed); the statement may be words of encouragement, self-affirmation, self-appreciation, self-recognition or self-gratitude and so on. The purpose is to fulfill myself with positive energy and be my own positive influence. By the end of 90 days, I will have 90 positive statements for myself.

Milestone: 30 statements every 30 days. (I will keep a log book on what I say to myself everyday and share after every 30 days! Please feel free to do the same!)

(3) Two hours of exercise per week

I take two hours at least per week to exercise and train my body, look after my health. (one hour yoga or running or swimming or hiking) By the end of 90 days, I will have 26 hours exercises.

Milestone: 8.5 hours every 30 days.

(4) Two activities per month that I would love to do with myself

I find two activities that I enjoy and love; take time out to spend with myself to do these activities. By doing these, I enjoy and learn more about myself. I know sometimes doing activities with myself may induce interesting conversation between me and myself. By the end of 90 days, I will have 6 activities enjoyed with myself!

Milestone: 2 activities every 30 days.

(5) Save $100 per month for the thing that I always wanted

I save $100 per month for the thing that I always wanted, but find too expensive to buy for my own pleasure. By doing the saving, I get to pamper myself. By the end of 90 days, I may give a gift to myself!

Milestone: $100 at the end of every month.


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Completed – 30 Days on How to love yourself more :)

30 Days to Love Ourselves More!! We did it :) Dear Friends and Readers :)

I truly hope that this 30 days mini-journey has helped you to understand and appreciate yourself better, as well as starting a life time journey focusing, caring and listening to your inner self with intensive love for yourself.

We are all God’s divine creation, (if you do not share the same view) at least your parents’ wonderful creation, we are here alive to live the best of our abilities, enjoy what we may create for self and others and contribute in return for what we have received in life. There is a higher purpose for each of us in our life. 

At the beginning of this mini-project, 30 Days on How to love yourself more, I commit because: I want

(a) to help a friend to love himself morenot he is starting to love himself more, even a baby step at a day, it is loving himself more each single day; at the same time our relationship grows stronger;

(b) to achieve my bucket list challenge goalyes and I am proud of myself :)

(c) to know and share the importance of self-love with more friends or readersI shared and at the same time, I am loving myself more every single day too!

(d) to receive some sharing on your precious life experiencesI received comments from few bloggers who shared the same views and their life experiences. They have encouraged me tremendously.

I have gained more than I gave. Thank you all who read my posts, shared comments, gave feedback and liked what I believe :)

I wish all of us all creating and profiting from the life we want and we create!

We are responsible.

Love from Cindy

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Day 30 – How you love yourself in the next 90 days?

How would you love yourself if you were the only person left and you have everything to offer?

We were born with emptiness and openness; subsequently been preconditioned by our parents, educations, cultures and social groups. Until we have a mind of our own, start to make own choices, decide who we want to be and realize who we really are, then we declare our life ownership and create a future belonging to ourselves.

You are the master of your life; the captain in the journey of self-love. You have all the capability to make a wonderful trip, as long as you allow your capability to be explored, skilled and practiced. They are there within you. Others’ presences are like the visitors to your ship; they accompany a part of your life, some stays for a long part, however eventually it’s still you navigating your journey, making no regrets no remorses in life.

The end is also the beginning. Let the end of 30 Days to love yourself more the beginning of your self-love journey in the next 90 days!

Today I love myself by: (read the below aloud 3 times and listen to what you read)

I understand self-loving is a life long journey requiring everyday practices. I make loving myself a daily habit in my life.

Today’s home work:

Create a self-love plan of 5 action items for the coming 90 days with (a) what is the action; (b) why you choose this action; and (c) what you want to achieve and (d) by when (include 2 miles stone for appreciation). For example: I read 3 self-love books to enhance my understanding about self-love. By doing so, I may search into myself deeper with the insight or guidance from the books. I want to finish 3 books by the end of 90 days, with milestone 1 book by the end of every 30 days.

Encouragement for myself:

(It’s your space…)


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Day 29 – Why not take a road trip to love yourself?

Live for the journey, not the destination.

In your daily life, do you love yourself? Or are you waiting for the perfect timing to start loving yourself? Planning and choosing the right love-yourself activities to do soon? Or perhaps still trying to find the time for you and yourself? How about right now, make a decision to take the coming weekend or one day out for a road trip, completely dedicated for you alone to love yourself?

Loving oneself is a life long journey requiring on-going love-yourself activities to take place. You are probably aware of the importance of self-love and want to love ourselves more or you are already in the journey, but sometimes experience temporary stagnation at a point during the journey. You know the final destination to reach is that you are your best lovers; however for whatever reasons, you just don’t seem to move to the direction of destination. This is normal and possibly a good sign. It reminds you to enjoy any single moment during the journey, even when you are not even moving. When you stagnate, it means there is an invisible road block you don’t see. Take time to find out the root cause and overcome the obstacle at deeper level. You are one step closer to the destination.

The journey of self-love requires self-awareness, dedication, time spend with self, courage to face own weaknesses and vulnerabilities, gentleness, kindness and empathy for self, as well as actions and support to realize the self-love. It’s your life and the only one life; make sure you are very much loved, at least by you in your best ability.

Today I love myself by: (read the below aloud 3 times and listen to what you read)

I am a self-loving person who gives me care, attention and time; I spend quality time with myself. I am not waiting for a perfect time or day to love myself, but rather through everyday life activities, I love and enjoy the life journey with myself.

Today’s home work:

Take yourself out for a weekend road trip to nearby city or resort; just enjoy spending time with yourself, do things that you like or attend a seminar or workshop that enriches you.

Encouragement for myself:

(It’s your space…)

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Day 28 – How much do you protect yourself from negative influences?

Positive energy meditates on positive thoughts, affirmation and influences.

How many times when you achieve or accomplish some goals successfully, you hear yourself saying instead of “Well done! You are so brilliant!”, “I am so proud of myself”, you hear “It’s nothing; it’s my responsibility” or “Be humble and not to be egotistic about it”. How many times when you fail or under achieve, you make judgment on your capabilities, blame your abilities and lash yourself with inadequacy. Are you a positive influence to yourself?

Are people around you that you know of happy about themselves and content in their lives? Are they influencing you in a positive ways? Are you protecting yourself against the negative influences brought by you and others?

Negative comments, thoughts and influences consume energies. The more you receive, the more you accumulate and multiply. It’s like a black hole absorbing all your energy. In additions, you would need to generate more energy to recoup with the energy you’ve lost. It’s like the snow ball effect; it just rolls and rolls till it gets far too big. Luckily the same applies to positive energy! The more you focus on being positive, support yourself with affirmations, encouragement, recognition to own abilities and be proud of self, the more positive you will be and more loving, nurturing and enriching you are to yourself in your life.

Take a stand and start to be the best positive influence in your own life; protect yourself from all other negative influences, no matter from yourself or others.


Today I love myself by: (read the below aloud 3 times and listen to what you read)

I protect myself from any negative influences bought by me or others; it may be an unconscious blaming, one line of harsh criticism or a hint of inadequacy to a basket of complaints or trivial blab la. I block them out to conserve my positiveness.

Today’s home work:

Take a moment to list out what negative influences I bring to myself and also brought by others. Think of the solutions to stop doing that and come up with alternatives positive habits to replace.

Encouragement for myself:

(It’s your space…)

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Day 27 – How self-sufficient and abundant are you?

He who self-sufficient does not ask others for more; he who is abundant in all kind has lots to give.  

Being self-sufficient goes beyond the general understanding of having enough money to support daily spending, living standard and random pleasures; it is more importantly about having emotional maturity and adequate stability to take care of own emotional needs, as well as others’ needs. A self-sufficient person interacts with others with adequacy and abundance in his or her emotion tank, rather than with the intention to withdraw from others or to take from others.

Are you emotionally self-sufficient? Are you fulfilling yourself with love, happiness, content, security, recognition, appreciation and so on? Are you abundant in your heart? Or are you waiting for someone else to fill up your emotional tank, i.e. make you happy, satisfied about life, appreciated and to give value to yourself? If there is a glass with 50% of water inside, do you see it as a glass with half full of water or half empty? If you choose half full, this indicates you are viewing from a positive and self-sufficient angle; if half empty is chosen, simply the negative and inadequate point of view is taken. There is no right or wrong answer; but only the answers which enhance you and your life!

On the journey of loving yourself, it is very important to realize how fulfilled and equipped you are emotionally; and not to be disturbed and discouraged by any circumstances or anyone. You are the number one investor and contributor; you invest with care, attention and time to generate and re-generate these positive emotions within you, especially at the time of difficulties and emotional vulnerabilities. It is not others’ responsibilities to restore your emotional breakage or to enrich your emotions and bring you self-confidence or security; it’s solely yours alone. If others do make good contribution in you having a happier, more pleasant and fulfilled life, it is your bonus; treasure them as much as you can.

Today I love myself by: (read the below aloud 3 times and listen to what you read)

I am responsible for my own emotional maturity, stability and security. I fulfill my own emotional needs instead of withdraw or take from others; I interact with abundance in heart. I am self-sufficient and I love myself.

Today’s home work:

Find out 2 of your biggest emotional needs and see how you could fulfill your own needs.

Encouragement for myself:

(It’s your space…)


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