In general, do you love your partner in your own ways or the ways your partner expects or a mix of the two? Do you insist on the view that what you think or what you give your partner is the best and is for your partner’s best interest? Do you know and carefully consider his or her needs before giving and sharing your opinions and love? Do you know which of your love actions make your partner feels loved and cared for?
We are all unique; we have our own ways of expressing, thinking and doing things, including loving ourselves and others. Sometimes we adopt the same approach of loving ourselves in loving others; sometimes we adjust or take a different approach. It’s important that we remind ourselves since we are all different due to our sexes, backgrounds, childhood, past experiences and so on, so we may have different needs in love. What you think is the best for your partner may not be the best or what he or she needs or wants.
For example, as a female partner, you may show your love by keeping a loving, clean home with meal prepared for your partner to come back to; however your partner might oversee all these and hope you energetically welcome him home with sweet words of greeting, comforting hugs or a simple massage after a long day instead of you busy with cooking and feeling tired due to the house chores. It’s a pity in the relationship where couples love and give each other so much, but the love is not fully received, just because the love given is not the love expected or wanted.
How would you love your partner in the days to come?
Today I love my partner by: (share it aloud to your partner)
Understanding what is my partner’s expectation of ‘being loved’ and committing myself to love in such ways expected by my partner.
For your actions:
(1) List out ‘how you love your partner’.
(2) Find out from your partner, what are the things you do that he or she feels loved by you; what are his or her examples of feeling loved.
(3) From now, express your love the ways your partner expects or likes as mentioned in (2) above; let your partner feels your love.