Very often we are busy loving the people around us and neglecting loving ourselves. We are relying and expecting others to love us and take good care of us; in fact there will be no one knows better than ourselves in understand what we want and taking good care of us. It is our privilege and responsibility.
Taking this opportunity to retrospect how you love yourselves in daily life. It’s never too late to love ourselves!
Read more about our posts on how to love yourself more :) and join us for this 90 days challenge!!
Note* there is no daily post for the coming 90 days (to avoid any confusion); but rather that you come up own plan to love yourself for the coming 90 days.
We will have random posts and sharing in the coming 90 days; and will do another 30 Days on How to Love Your Partner from 1st August 2012.
Love yourself in the next 90 days!!
Make this a life time challenge!
To pay attention to ourselves and love ourselves in daily life.
This challenge, to love yourself more, is a daily challenge, as well as a life time challenge! If you wish, you may follow our sequence, starting from day 1; however you are more than welcome to pick the one you like and start from any date.
The main idea of the challenge is to develop a mind-set in 30 days to love ourselves more, followed by self-affirmation and doing a daily activity. Hopefully when the 30 days challenge is completed, you may be aware of loving yourself always in every day life.
Join us, in loving ourselves more each single day!
Bucket Challenge: Repair or give a new life of one of the stuff you don’t use anymore.
(Ending Sunday 3rd Jun 2012)
Most of the time, when our belongings aren’t useful anymore. We just throw them away, like we do with newspapers; we buy, we consume and we trash it.
This habit we take with stuffs can easily shift to people. I’m sure you all now a man who sees women as tools and goes from one woman to another one without really enjoying the relationship.
Throwing things pollute and make us poorer, but don’t get me wrong. I’m not asking that we keep all the newspapers we buy in our life. But as we throw things, it is good to be aware of this act of destruction and consider for a moment if there are no better options. Many things we throw away can easily restore a second life, be fixed or maybe someone else will be happy to receive it.
The simple fact of fixing something allows us to understand its history, how it works and is designed. We never really know how things work, we just use them.
As with people, most of the time we just interact. We don’t try to understand the person and this can lead to many miscommunication. The meaning of the things we say can be very different from the words we use. We communicate a lot through hidden meanings and just listening to the words we say, it doesn’t allow us to understand the hidden messages.
But when you learn, even roughly how things work or why they work like that, it opens a whole new world of messages and understanding. And this may offer you many more options and opportunities.
We tried to restore a bench with some fixes and gave it a new graphic look. Now it is beautifully sitting in the garden, enjoying the spring sun and looking forward to summer! Give yourself this challenge!
Repair or give a new use to something
Don’t throw things without having at least 2 seconds of consideration for them. This will define how you interact with life.
The comparison between people and stuffs is very close, so please have few consideration for people/stuff and in general.
Bucket Challenge: Spend a day in Silence or In the Silence Space You Have Within
(Ending Sunday 27th May 2012)
What is the Space Within?
The Space Within is the space where you, your physical body and your thoughts becoming aware of and embracing each other. It’s in this space where allowing is taking place, allowing things, objects, events and the understanding of yourself, physically or mentally, just the way they are. It’s the space of letting go of ego, judgments and thoughts, voluntary or involuntary.
Let me explain this way: when an incident happens (for example: a +-35 years old prostitute takes a +-10 years old young girl along while trying to attract business on the road), the incident itself is neutral and as it is (what we be seeing without thoughts). However we, with a pair of tinted glasses (tinted by background, religious beliefs, personal experiences or beliefs, ethics…etc), we have different views than what we actually see (i.e. she is so shameless, she is polluting younger girls, she supposes to protect her …), we have different thoughts and judgments appearing in our brain (i.e. how could she does that.., how she ends up like this …). These thoughts bring emotions to us (i.e. may be anger, disappointed, feeling disgraceful, sad, empathetic …) and perhaps these thoughts also re-enforce your beliefs or actions (once again).
The pattern here is that (1) an incident happens –> (2) We SEE what we want or choose to see —> (3) We FEEL what we think we are feeling or want to feel —> (4) We CONCLUDE what we believe or want to believe, and continue the looping, merely guided by our subconscious mind (whatever suits us, believe or not). What the Space is referring to is that after we have becoming aware of our own pattern —> (1) —> (2) —> (3),
we become aware of our own patterns and take a step back; take the time to see the incident as it is, watch our own thoughts andjudgments made instantly, flying in and out of our mind; just allowing the thought and judgment as it is, accept as it is, allowing this moments for – the incident, what you see, what you think and for you alone. This is then the moment the Space arises.
This new Space within is a stillness, a silence, a pause, a chance, an opening to new vision and an opportunity to make new decision (if you want to break your own patterns); it’s an awakening call to see other possibilities and alternatives available out there; it’s a disguised second chance!
From there, the (4) mentioned above will no longer be the same each single time. Because we will be heading into the Space with one question, but leaving the space with many solutions to choose from! :)
Let’s work together to find and explore this Silence Space within us!
Spend a day in Silence or In the Silence Space You Have Within
Find the Space Within and spend time with your inner self (this doesn’t mean you stop doing everything; it’s more doing daily things with the awareness of what you, your body and your mind are doing!)
Take 1 or 2 incidents in your life, take them to this space within and enjoy looking at them.
To see own patterns, to create this space within, to learn to accept things as it is, to practice and to enjoy the space :)
Medium to High
(a) Try limit talking or make contacts with others. It’s a time spent with yourself;(b) Be aware of your own thoughts patterns and actions and allowing this SPACE to come in.
This post is inspired by the book “The Journey into Yourself” by Eckhart Tolle (the author of “Power of NOW“). In his book, there are more examples and insights into the relationship between oneself and NOW and this SPACE allowed for solutions, creativity, inspiration and stillness (peace) to appear.
Bucket Challenge: Give away 1 gift each day for 7 consecutive days
(Ending Sunday 20th May 2012)
Giving is a virtue; giving generously is a bonus.
To be able to give is a blessing; be able to give generously is an abundance of the heart!
Receiving is a form of giving; giving the opportunity to the giver and allowing ourselves to be humble (that we need other’s help).
If you have not yet opened your heart to GIVE or RECEIVE, this post brings the 1st GIFT to open your heart, if you let us!
People nowadays have more possessions than people 10 or 20 years ago and yet give or share with others much less than 10 or 20 years ago. People nowadays earn much more in monetary terms and yet hold tighter of what they have … Isn’t this contradicting?
For some people, GIVING is natural and it’s not a difficult act. However for some people, they just don’t give, let along giving to total strangers. When you ask them, it’s either the act of giving just never appears in their mind or the act is not a part of their habits, or simply they just don’t feel or want to give.
Everyone takes RECEIVING differently. Some do not really like it, their ego see it as they are being pity on. Some are very fond of it as they take advantages of others via receiving from them. And some see it as the opportunities to connect and sustain the two ways interactions, thus the relationship.
With GIVING or RECEIVING, the action is not merely a DO, but a sincere GIVING or RECEIVING involves our hearts, genuine caring, open mind and careful execution. So both the giver and the receiver are content and fulfilled in the process. They both experience what they want to experience and will promote this GIVING and RECEIVING further with people around them. There was a movie, Pay It Forward also promoting similar concept! Have a look in YouTube video :)
So, our challenge for this week is to GIVE and to RECEIVE with your heart! It’s not so much about giving the tangibles, i.e. money, car, clothes, books away to others, but more about to offer what you have that are intangibles, the elements that make up the YOU today, i.e. your kindness, wisdom, helpful hands…etc. And as to RECEIVE, our challenge is to be aware of how open we are to receive from others and how we receive from others.
Start with giving a gift after you have read this post and experience yourself the feeling of GIVING!
Our first gift to give away is this POST to our readers :) Hope this 7 days gifting and receiving experience impacts and influences your life! Come join us!
Give away 1 gift each day for consecutive 7 days!
Share your abundance with others
Increase to 14 days!
To experience via giving, how life around us may be changed ~ (and notice how valuable you are!)
x hour(s) each day for 7 days (depending on what you offer to others)
Medium to High
(a) Set your mind to give without expecting any returns;(b) Focus more on the intangibles (i.e. help, advice, words of comforts, actions) that you may offer to others than the tangibles (i.e. money, food…etc).
BIG ICE: 4 hours hiking tour on Glacier Perito Moreno (see the red circle in the map below)
“The Perito Moreno Glacier is a glacier located in the Los glaciers National Park in the south west of Santa Cruz province, Argentina; and is one of the most important tourist attractions in the Argentine Patagonia. It is one of only three Patagonian glaciers with 5 kilometers wide, with an average height of 74 meters (+-20 floors building) above the surface of the water of Lake Argentino (in Argentina) and a total ice depth of 170 meters (+-55 floors). It’s a 250 km2 ice formation and one of 48 glaciers fed by the Southern Patagonian Ice Field located in the Andes system shared with Chile…” ~ information extracted from Wikipedia.
During our 4D3N trip to Patagonia, lodging at nearby town, El Calafate (about +1 hour car drive from Glacier Perito Moreno), we joined a day trip BIG ICE which requiring us walking 4 hours on the glacier. Even though the tour will provide crampons to us, I was still a little concerned due to the physical requirements and my own condition. On the contrary, Loic was ready, very excited and eager about the walk.
The red circle in the map on the right is where we walked. The gradient was about +300m above sea level and the walk was intensive for the first 1 hour uphill, then the rest were flat and down hill. The tricky part was walking with the crampons; this required a bit techniques!
(Up hill – place feet like an open V, to avoid slide down; down hill – knee slightly bend, body leans backwards and step really hard into the ice, so the crampons will grab into the ice…)
This was an experience where I’d say my Mind Power Dictates Physical Strength; few times when I faced fear, fatigue and out of breath, my body signaled it would collapse soon if I don’t take a break. My mind kept on telling myself cannot stop now, just walk a bit more, just a step more and more…. and finally I completed the walk. Not to mention the recovery process straight after returning to the hotel… lots of pain on the knees and soreness on the legs …
Worth it? YES! TOTALLY!
First time seeing glacier and walking on it; it was absolutely amazing!! (see the below pictures)
Will I do it again? PERHAPS … (heard moon light walk is nice and romantic …)
Bucket Challenge: Mind Power dictates Physical Strength!
(Ending Sunday 20th May 2012 – Catch up post for W16)
Ever have the moments of facing fear, physical difficulties and fatigue, and you are so out of breath, your body starts to signal collapse and all you can think of is having a break?? And your mind is keeping on saying, “don’t stop, you cannot stop now, just walk a bit more, just a step more and almost there…”. Your hands, legs and body continue forward like an invincible robot, because your mind commands so; all of a sudden, you feel you are out of your body, this is not your body anymore…
This is the trans, the transition where your physical body is not controlled by you, but instead by your mind power. It’s like the mind has pre-set your body to achieve certain goals (in this case, to finish the 4 hours walk) and despite all the fatigue, out of breath experienced and in the head conversations, thoughts to quit and stop, the body just will not fret, because the body is programmed to ignore all any others, but to reach the goals (to finish the walk)!
” Mind Power is directing your thoughts toward a desired outcome. Put simply, what you focus on you attract. “ By J. Kehoe, Mind Power Basics.
The week is to challenge ourselves to explore and exercise our mind power. If you are not familiar about the ‘mind power’, google it and read up about it (which I have started searching while preparing this post and still learning and checking out). Just give it a try! If you are exercising mind power and have some stories to share, please share with us in the comment section. It’s an pretty abstract subject and it’s an experience you will truly know and accept only when you have experienced it yourself.
Are you ready to explore and exercise your mind power with us this week?
Mind Power dictates Physical Strength!
Set a goal, challenge and go beyond what you think your physical ability can achieve.
Aware of your mind power, use and exercise your mind power!!
1-hour, 1-night or 1-day
Medium to High
Brain storm on your physical limitation and prepare yourself to go beyond (ask others’ help if needed).
Take few minutes to enjoy the below video (music and graphics):