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Self-focused questions “How am I doing lately?”

In my Day 30 – How you love yourself in the coming 90 days? Today’s home work, end of Sep final updates, a quote of encouragement on Sep 28: “No matter how busy or tired I am, I am committed to take at least 1 hour a week conversing with myself.” And exactly what topics do I talk to myself?

An important question for all of us before all other questions I asked myself is –>

Do I spend enough time with myself, listen to my inner voices and have peace within? 

We all need certain levels of assurance and reassurance to ourselves (that we are being oneself, living the life the way we want and we know what we are doing) and security (where not to worry about getting hurt or suffer, be as free and safe within) in our lives, both physically and mentally, especially the later. These two provide a sense of stability and peace anchoring within ourselves, steady the our inner being, even when our outer surrounding is full of chaos.

The level of assurance and security needed may vary accordingly to our backgrounds, past experiences and most present situations. The source of the providers often we think is and count on others and in fact, we ourselves are the ultimate source. It is for our own well-being and benefits to understand self well, take the responsibility and be our own source provider.

The below is a list of questions I am asking myself on regular basis: (Just be very honest with yourself and not to judge yourself; pay attention to the first answer in mind, it is often the most true reflection of your current thoughts. Be gentle and keep in mind this is to spend quality time with self, not to criticize self)

  • How am I feeling lately? (both physically and mentally)
  • Am I happy? Truly happy? And why is that? May I do something about it? (replacing ‘happy’ with ‘content’, ‘satisfied’, ‘enjoying life’, ‘sad’, ‘angry’, ‘upset’, ‘tired’, ‘stressed’, ‘worried’, ‘calm’, ‘focused’, ‘determined’, ‘relaxed’, ‘appreciative’, ‘creative’, ‘healthy’, ‘demotivated’, ‘judgmental’, ‘blaming’, ‘fearless’, ‘resentful’, ‘growing’, ‘honest’, ‘being loved’, ‘loving’, ‘avoiding’, ‘free spirit’, ‘having hard time’, ‘running out of time’, ‘energetic’, ‘inspired’, ‘lonely’ … etc. you may go through few emotion adjectives as above or select the one best describes you and dig into it.) 
  • How far am I from my personal goals? (Do I have a personal goal?)
  • How is my work vs. life balance at the moment?
  • How have I changed emotionally and physically from last month? (How is my well-being?) 
  • What can I do differently for myself next month?
  • What did I do last month that I am proud of? (Take time to appreciate how good I am!)
  • Am I growing or learning or enriching myself? (Developing my potential…)
  • What is(are) my priority(ies) in the coming month? (take 1 month at a time – this helps to regain focus on what is important and close to your heart) 
  • What makes me happy? (and grant yourself to do that :P what’s the wait?)
  • If I win 1 million dollars, what would I do and feel? (this question is to encourage dreaming~ every dream with realizable action plans => goals coming true!!)

The purpose of the above question is to constantly be aware of our own thoughts and feelings. Many people who are stressed often neglect the early warnings that are sent out from their mind and bodies. If we are all aware of early signals and having regular check up or conversations with self, life will be much happier and more relaxed!!

While you taking time surfing on the net and reading nice articles, why not take another 5 minutes to answer the above question for yourselves, having a little intimacy with self!!

 
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Posted by on October 25, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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Self-development 101

 “The greatest enemy of tomorrow’s success is today’s success” by Rick Warren

I have to admit, I have been complacent with my August Completed – 30 Days on How to love your partner and switching myself completely off from the areas of bucket list challenges writing and self-disciplining to areas of focusing on relaxation and self-indulgence :)

With end of September final updates and reading of “Self-improvement 101” by John C Maxwell. I have woken up from my prolonged self-indulgence and procrastination; realizing that I have been spending lots less time on personal growth. I felt like as if I am standing on an escalator going down, but I am trying to go up; and the moment I stop walking up, I am being taken down by the escalator to the bottom. I did enjoy my own satisfaction and relaxation, but at the same time being fooled by it.

Self-development will not happen by itself for us; it requires dedicated intention and efforts. How much we are willing to invest in ourselves is how much at the end of the day, we will harvest from ourselves. If there is an area of life you would like to develop further, let’s work on it for the coming month. Quoted from Earl Nightingale: “If a person will spend one hour a day on the same subject for five years, that person will be an expert on that subject.” Indeed, 1 hour a day for 5 years, that is 1,825 hours in total, roughly equals to 228 working days (assuming 8 hours per day). It’s like a year of short term study (advance enrichment). I am now amazed that 1 hour a day may turned into something sounds grand, even a second career development!

So, if there is something you would like to spend this 1 hour on? 

It’s not ‘time’ that we don’t have, it’s self-discipline. Once your goal is set (and it has to be your passion), then put yourself into a non-bargain-able daily hour program (refer below example, skip weekend if you want) and
Example: first select your to be developed area or subject (i.e. want to learn an instrument, want to be a life coach or learn photography…) and ENJOY the learning experience (not to be burden by it).

  • monday: read books or articles about it
  • tuesday: take relevant lessons or workshops
  • wednesday: make notes, reflect and integrate knowledge from monday & tuesday
  • thursday: field search (via Internet or stores…) on special techniques, trends and what are being offered on the market
  • friday: put into practices

If you don’t have something in mind, it’s never to late to find out more about yourself and something you are interested!

 
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Posted by on October 23, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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Final Sep update on My 5 self-love actions for the next 90 days (Part 3/3)

Sorry for the delay! Finally it’s here! :)

Day 30 – Today’s home work: Create a self-love plan of 5 action items for the coming 90 days (July, August, September) The below is my 5 self-love actions with final month, end of Sep updates: (my end of August updates and end of July updates)

(1) Read 3 self-love books (1 book by the end of each month)

3rd book checked – Self-improvement 101” by John C Maxwell.

Additional book read: “Social Intelligence: The new science of human relationships” by Daniel Goleman.

(2) One statement per day (30 by each month end)

      • Sep 1 – It’s better to be well prepared than sorry.
      • Sep 2 – There is nothing more important than embracing and standing firmly for certain family values. I am making the changes for a better family life
      • Sep 3 – The easiest and fastest way to change the world is to change ourselves.
      • Sep 4 – Do not let others to decide or to disturb on how I will live through my day today.
      • Sep 5 – Nothing is so urgent in life (don’t have to rush all the time), unless when life itself become urgent (facing life and death situation).
      • Sep 6 – Helping others is like having pollen and seeds spreading around, we never know what kind of flowers, fruits or outcomes it will bring. It is not so much about expecting any return, but rather not to underestimate the impacts that we bring on others. (I encourage myself keep on spreading the seeds of surprises!)

        • Sep 7 – When I start to focus on how much others do for me, I start to realize how little I do for others. 
        • Sep 8 – Loving self is an important life long subject; but we often forget to keep it in the daily program.
        • Sep 9 – Take 2-3 hours to do something I like regularly, i.e. per week, I feel much more with myself and  happy with myself.
        • Sep 10 – Self-improvement is meant for ‘self’, not for others.
        • Sep 11 – Type of life we are living in is reflected in the types of daily activities we do. (if want to change the type of life, we got to change the activities)

  • Sep 12 – if we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we are not really living.” by Gail Sheehy
  • Sep 13 – Growth is certainly a choice; no one says it is easy, but for sure rewarding!
  • Sep 14 – Focus on self-development, not self-fulfillment. (self-development is a bigger goal than self-fulfillment. Self-fulfillment is the by-product benefit of self-development)
  • Sep 15 – Anyone appears in our lives for a reason. I may not understand what is the reason right away, but I am willing to explore and learn more from them.
  • Sep 16 – Resting is preparing for the next heard work!
  • Sep 17 – Finding life purpose calling is not easy (especially we don’t listen to our hearts), but it will come when we start to pay attention.
  • Sep 18 – Sometimes what I think it is good for others may not be the case. Always double check with consideration.
  • Sep 19 – Within an interaction, how I react enrolls how other responses. (meaning if I want my boss to trust me that I am handling everything well, I need to first show my boss I am handling my boss well)
  • Sep 20 – Where I am being myself and expose myself, it does not mean I am weak and vulnerable. I just choose to let others to see the naked me. (don’t have to guess me)
  • Sep 21 – He who dares loving, trying and giving is really living!
  • Sep 22 – Managing self is easier than managing others; nevertheless, we like to manage others first.
  • Sep 23 – A winner knows how much he still has to learn, even when he is considered an expert by others; a loser wants to be considered as an expert before he has learned enough to know how little he knows. by Sydney Harris
  • Sep 24 – Live like there is no next month.
  • Sep 25 – It’s not ‘time’ that we don’t have, it’s self-discipline.
  • Sep 26 – Develop a plan, working toward according to the plan and discipline myself without any excuses.
  • Sep 27 – What is life like with a limited life with unfulfilled potentials?
  • Sep 28 – No matter how busy or tired I am, I am committed to take at least 1 hour a week conversing with myself (i.e.how I am feeling, how I have been, am I happy, how far am I from my personal goals, how is my life/work balance and so on).
  • Sep 29 – Always give self extra credit, support and courage to do things desired.
  • Sep 30 – “The greatest enemy of tomorrow’s success is today’s success” by Rick Warren

(3) Two hours of exercise per week (8.5 hours every month) 65% checked – took an hour every week during lunch time to do some fast walking around the block and 30 minutes stretching each night before going to bed. Certainly over the past 90 days, there were still room to improve; and I keep on telling myself to continue going ahead, not to let yesterday’s failure dis-encourages tomorrow’s success!

(4) Two activities per month that I would love to do with myself (2 activities to share each month) Checked! Take a good bath with oil, home made ice tea with candle and music :) Treat myself with world famous singer concert (Madonna’s concert)!!

(5) Save $100 per month for the thing that I always wanted ($100 more at the end of each month) Checked! Not only I have saved $300, a friend of mine has given me an iPAD as a gift! So wonderful~ it’s like when I start to accumulate wealth, wealth itself multiplies!!! (law of attraction?)

 
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Posted by on October 21, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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Aug update on My 5 self-love actions for the next 90 days (Part 2/3)

Day 30 – Today’s home work: Create a self-love plan of 5 action items for the coming 90 days (July, August, September)

The below is my 5 self-love actions with end of Aug updates:
(my end of July updates)

(1) Read 3 self-love books (1 book by the end of each month)

2nd book checked – Encouragement changes everything by John C Maxwell.

The next book for September is “Self-improvement 101” by John C Maxwell.

(2) One statement per day (30 by each month end)

  • Aug 1 – Encouragement is the oxygen to the soul.
  • Aug 2 – We always have choice to be who we want to be!
  • Aug 3 – It would be easier to hike with the right shoes…
  • Aug 4 – Let no ‘expectation’ traps me into the ‘should be’ situation and disturbs me emotionally.

  • Aug 5 – I am really proud of myself facing up to my weaknesses.
  • Aug 6 – Life is beautiful. I will take time to slow down and enjoy the beauty.
  • Aug 7 – I can do it! I can let go the urge of wanting to be right! 
  • Aug 8 – Empathy is the pillar for an intimate and strong relationship.
  • Aug 9 – At time of difficult moment, take one day at a time; difficult period will eventually pass.
  • Aug 10 – Not to over worry for people or things that I have no control over or not responsible of. 
  • Aug 11 – Relationship requires investment of love, time, energy, compromises, understanding, patience, communication and faith. The more we invest, the more we reap on the way!
  • Aug 12 – Trust is the foundation of a relationship. I will give 100% of trust at the beginning – what do I get to lose?
  • Aug 13 – sometimes we ask for things that we are not ready to receive; in this case, perhaps it’s better that we wait a bit longer.
  • Aug 14 – Waiting for someone else’ to change takes very long time; it is easier to change ourselves first.
  • Aug 15 – Anyone appears in our lives for a reason. I may not understand what is the reason right away, but I am willing to explore and learn from.
  • Aug 16 – I am happy that I am a giver in love and also a taker.
  • Aug 17 – There are so many unfortunate events happening on other people around us; I will cherish what I have, not focus on what i don’t have.
  • Aug 18 – When I start to involve and consider my partner in decision making, from big to small decisions, it’s the time when i really in a relationship.
  • Aug 19 – Sometimes in a relationship, it’s not about what we can do for others, but merely the simple fact if we are there when asked or needed.
  • Aug 20 – To get recognized by others, sometimes is not about how well and how much you have done; but how much you stood up by your achievements.
  • Aug 21 – Always aim for the best and prepare for the worst.
  • Aug 22 – It’s never too late to make an apology.
  • Aug 23 – Do what you can while alive; once when time is up, action ceases.
  • Aug 24 – Be humble; the more we know, the less we know.
  • Aug 25 – Forgive is to forget and let go; not to ignore.
  • Aug 26 – A bold heart is half of the battle.
  • Aug 27 – Less is more. 
  • Aug 28 – The best gifts in life are given when we are not asking for them.
  • Aug 29 – When my partner embraces my temper in silence, it does not mean it doesn’t hurt, so I may abuse it; it means he loves me and my temper more than he loves himself.
  • Aug 30 – Thinking out of box sometimes, it helps thinking in the box!
  • Aug 31 – I may not be the best perfect partner that my partner wishes for; but I am proud of being the partner I am to my partner.

(3) Two hours of exercise per week (8.5 hours every month)

50% checked – only did 4 hours this month :( I would like to focus a bit more in restate my health in Sept!

(4) Two activities per month that I would love to do with myself (2 activities to share each month)

Checked! Finally visited my dream destination, a church in Mogno Switzerland designed by Mario Botha (see below); invited myself to a Japanese restaurant and enjoy food by myself.

(5) Save $100 per month for the thing that I always wanted ($100 more at the end of each month)

Checked! Total $200 by now and I have already bought the pad!!! YEH.. early achievement!

 
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Posted by on August 31, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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Completed – 30 Days on How to love your partner :)

30 Days to Love Our Partners!! We did it :) 

Dear Friends and Readers :)

After 30 Days on How to love yourself moreI have challenged myself on 30 Days on How to love your partner. It has been a great 30 days in my life and for my relationship with my partner. I have carried out the daily actions myself; some are quite challenging and requiring lots of space between my partner and I, some are easier and fun to do. We not only get to know each other much more in a deeper level, but also using the opportunities to make commitments embracing our differences and common goals in life. Both my partner and I have learnt a lot in this 30 days journey, I truly hope this mini-journey has brought and shared different perspectives of relationship, enriched and helped your relationship in any ways. 

Thank you all who read my posts, shared comments, gave feedback and liked what I believe :) Learning how to love is a lifelong journey, hope to see or hear from you again on the road.

I wish all of us all creating and profiting from the life we want and we create!

Love from Hsing/Cindy
 
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Posted by on August 31, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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Day 31 – How you love your partner for life?

Love the ways he or she expects or likes it~

In general, do you love your partner in your own ways or the ways your partner expects or a mix of the two? Do you insist on the view that what you think or what you give your partner is the best and is for your partner’s best interest? Do you know and carefully consider his or her needs before giving and sharing your opinions and love? Do you know which of your love actions make your partner feels loved and cared for?

We are all unique; we have our own ways of expressing, thinking and doing things, including loving ourselves and others. Sometimes we adopt the same approach of loving ourselves in loving others; sometimes we adjust or take a different approach. It’s important that we remind ourselves since we are all different due to our sexes, backgrounds, childhood, past experiences and so on, so we may have different needs in love. What you think is the best for your partner may not be the best or what he or she needs or wants.

For example, as a female partner, you may show your love by keeping a loving, clean home with meal prepared for your partner to come back to; however your partner might oversee all these and hope you energetically welcome him home with sweet words of greeting, comforting hugs or a simple massage after a long day instead of you busy with cooking and feeling tired due to the house chores. It’s a pity in the relationship where couples love and give each other so much, but the love is not fully received, just because the love given is not the love expected or wanted.

How would you love your partner in the days to come?

Today I love my partner by: (share it aloud to your partner)

Understanding what is my partner’s expectation of ‘being loved’ and committing myself to love in such ways expected by my partner.

For your actions:

(1)    List out ‘how you love your partner’.

(2)    Find out from your partner, what are the things you do that he or she feels loved by you; what are his or her examples of feeling loved.

(3)    From now, express your love the ways your partner expects or likes as mentioned in (2) above; let your partner feels your love.

 
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Posted by on August 31, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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Day 30 – Be creative in loving your partner

Creativity is the opposite of routine. Surprise your partner!

How do you love your partner? Are you constantly trying out new ways to love your partner, new manners to show and express your affection and caring, new channels to communicate your admiration, gratitude and appreciation? Are you being creative in loving your partner, delivering your love messages and actions, as well as creating the relationship you want? Surely your partner would not mind little versatility and dynamic in how you love him or her.

Ever thought that loving your partner may be creative? Love may be just love and you just love your partner and nothing in love can be ‘creative’ about it. If you are willing, give it a try and answer this: how many ways can you come up to express ‘you love your partner’? How many ways to say thank you to your partner? When you come up with 10 or 20 options, there will still be few out there, waiting for us to explore.

Sounds exciting, isn’t it? To go beyond what we know exist already and explore the unknown. It not only surprises your partner, but also excites ourselves in the exploring process. Here are some tips for being creative in loving your partner and building the relationship:

  • always brain storm for some new exciting ideas; not to stop at first and only idea
  • do something spontaneous and out of your ordinary routine, i.e. your colleague mentions a good place for night viewing today in office, why not take your partner to the place for a romantic night view (something you would not normally do in weekday).
  • deliver messages unconventionally, i.e. writing on the sand, through your singing, spelt out the message using MM chocolate, using post-it, graffiti….etc.
  • following the heart-felt moments; create environment for it and for surprises
  • go extra mile for your partner, try something new or wouldn’t dare to do

Relationship is what you create of it; it’s in your hand to excite and energize your love for your partner and the relationship. What you invest and put in the relationship, you and your partner will both benefit from it.

Today I love my partner by: (share it aloud to your partner)

Being creative in the ways I love my partner; I will try different ways.

For your actions:

(1)    Take time to brainstorm right now and come up with at least 5 NEW ways that you have never done before in expressing “I love you” to your partner. Do these 5 new ways with this week.

(2)    Create a small surprise in the coming weekend for your partner.

 

 
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Day 17 – The power of serving your partner!

Everyone has something to give, no matter it is big or small.

Mother Teresa once said: “Prayer in action is love, and love in action is service. Try to give unconditionally whatever a person needs in the moment. The point is to do something, however small, and show you care through your actions by giving your time…” Love is an action word and through the actions of love, it’s serving others; serving your partner. Are you serving your partner?

Serving’ here is not in the context of being a servant and does what has been told; but rather choose to do something with a willing heart and without seeking any rewards or returns. We all want to be the queens and kings at home and in the relationship, to be served with love and care, be pampered and taken care of endlessly. This is possible in long term only if it begins with us. Serve your partner first as how you would want to be served. 

Each of us is bestowed with the ability to serve others, to give and share a piece of us, materially like our physical belongings or intangibly, i.e. our support, words of encouragement… or even a simple smile. If we are willing to shift our focus on our partner, open our eyes and ears to observe the needs of our partners and hear the hidden cries for attention and help, we may seize the opportunities to offer ourselves and enrich the relationship by serving our partners.

When was the last time you serve your partner, do something for him or her? It may be something small, like running your partner a bath, giving some massages, bringing him or her breakfast in bed to something a bit deeper, i.e. giving mental comforts and support, words of encouragements or offering empathy and compassion. It can be anything and can be more than what your partner needs. It’s up to us to decide that ‘serving our partners’ starts with us right now and it’s important to serve with a ‘happy willing’ heart!

By serving your partner, you are serving yourself and enrolling your partner to serve you.Serving’ provides us the opportunities to be part and to contribute to our partners’ lives and the life we are together; it validates our abundance in love and heart, as well as it gives meanings and values to our relationships with our partners.

Today I love my partner by: (share it aloud to your partner)

Serving my partner with a willing heart.

For your actions:

(1)    Take a moment to review your perception on and definition of ‘serving’. Does your current understanding affect how you could have helped others who are in needs? Will it make any differences if you see ‘serving’ differently?

(2)    Make some efforts in serving your partner for the rest of the month August.

(3)    Ask your partner “How well do I serve you?” and open up a conversation with your partner over this topic.

 
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Posted by on August 17, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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Day 16 – Compromise is inevitable in a healthy relationship

Compromise is not a change of heart, but rather changes in expectation and tactics.

Is it possible for you to love someone who is so different to you? Is it also possible for you to live with him or her? Are you embracing the differences between you two or repulsing the differences? Are you allowing the differences to work in favor of your relationship or to fracture the connection? Do you need a partner to complement you or want a partner who is just like you? Be careful, what you need and what you want sometimes are not the same.

Strictly speaking under micro-inspection, every single one of us is a unique individual. We are all different from each other; even though we may share a lot in common. Couples who are very similar to each other and share many common beliefs, interests and habits, they tend to bond faster, closer and their relationship progresses further than the couples who have greater differences between them. This does not mean the couples who are similar do not compromise or do not argue. We all take time (long or short) to adjust ourselves to be with other people.

What are your beliefs on ‘compromise’? Are you compromising a lot in your current love relationship? How do you feel about it? Dictionary definitions of ‘compromise’ are (1) to settle by mutual concessions and (2) to reduce the quality, value, or degree of something. In point 1, it is stated ‘compromise’ are about two people agreeing on something. If one agrees, but not the other, this is not a compromise. It may help us if we first understand the differences between ‘agree’ vs. ‘accept’. A typical tooth paste squeezing example: I may disagree with the way my partner is squeezing the tooth paste (from the bottom), because that’s not how I do it (from the middle), however I accept his way of doing, because that’s the way he is, and since I accept, I will not be bothered or nagging about this difference. If both shares the same view, in this case, there is nothing to compromise, even both may disagree, but both accept each other’s way. And this is the power of acceptance. In point 2, personally believe ‘compromise’ sometimes brings inconveniences for individuals, because it is no longer just one person’s way; however it does not necessary reduce the quality, value or degree of something, instead it brings the synergy of a joined agreement where both are benefiting from.

Compromise in a relationship is inevitable and it’s a sign of respectful partnership. If you find to ‘compromise’ is slightly difficult, take a moment to find the root causes. To compromise is not to ask you to change your heart intention or lower your standard, instead it’s about you changing the expectation of the joint situation (no longer just one person’s situation) and the ways of dealing with the joint event together with your partner taking into consideration of his or her expectation.

Ps. A point to think further: if you find the right partner, there is no need to compromise.

Today I love my partner by: (share it aloud to your partner)

Compromise.

For your actions:

(1)    Take a moment to answer: do you compromise in your relationship? From a scale of 1 (not compromising at all) -10 (being compromising too much), how would you rate yourself and your partner? And how do you feel about it? Dig deeper to find the reasons.

(2)    Ask your partner to rate from scale 1-10 about him or her being compromising and about you. Take the opportunity to align both understanding about ‘compromise’; share each other’s view and feelings towards ‘compromise’.

(3)    Do one of the activities with your partner that he or she likes, but you are not too keen on. Try compromise by doing and see what it will bring you!

 

 
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Posted by on August 16, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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Day 15 – One loving kiss a day, live 5 minutes longer ~

“Hug is a perfect gift; one size fits all, and nobody minds if you exchange it.” By unknown author.

Since we were children, we have experienced the power of body contacts in our daily life. Perhaps It’s through a kiss on the wound as a placebo, believing the wound is no longer painful or a soothing chest rub while having a cold, hoping we will heal from the cold or from a shoulder to lean on which offers sharing of burdens and of a weary heart, or even by the comforting hugs which embraces deep understanding and a broken heart. We all need body contacts to nurture our souls.

Body contact provides the affection that we need in a relationship with others in a magical way; it provides physical closeness and sensations (especially with our partner), assurance and encouragement, as well as fulfills and brings the satisfaction of the mind. It’s a meeting point where energies join together, gaining and releasing of energy between two people, where synergy arises for the greater benefits of the two. Particularly in a love relationship, couple may melt into each other’s presence and becoming stronger, more invincible as one to challenge, conquer and achieve their goals ahead.

Maintaining body contacts with each other within a couple relationships is important and essential; the more frequent you have body contacts with each other, the more loving and closely bonded you are with each other. Try having 1 kiss, 1 hug and 10 minutes holding hands every day for a week and you tell me the differences in your relationship. Just imagine this: try to kiss your partner right after a heated argument with him or her while you are still mad at your partner? Or try to hug your partner after he or she says something hurtful to you. It is hard to do so, right? Maybe a little bit later. The point is that our bodies could not lie and it’s a little more difficult to ask your body to pretend that ‘we are still much in love’ or ‘it is ok’. Have you been hugging each other lately? Been kissing, holding hands and love making?

On average 60-70% of messages are communicated by nonverbal behaviors; body postures, gestures and facial expressions, even eye movements give clues to the attitudes or state of minds of a person. With our partners, the best is when both are open and honest with each other completely, so no guessing work is required. With body languages, we are able to observe and understand our partners better, be more caring and sensitive in delivering our messages in a conversation and show our admiration, affection and love with our arms and bodies. We are all blessed and equipped with tools, i.e. our arms, legs and bodies; why not use them to do something great?!

Lastly, here are my telepathic hugs and kisses, XOXO for all of you who have read my posts and accompanied me so far during the journey of loving your partner! You are the motivation of my writing. A big teddy bear hug goes to all of you!

Today I love my partner by: (share it aloud to your partner)

Giving my partner generously my hugs, kisses and all that I can offer with my body!

For your actions:

(1)    Give my partner 1 kiss, 1 hug and 10 minutes holding hands per day for a week; see if there is any difference in our relationship.

 

 

 
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Posted by on August 15, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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