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Final Sep update on My 5 self-love actions for the next 90 days (Part 3/3)

Sorry for the delay! Finally it’s here! :)

Day 30 – Today’s home work: Create a self-love plan of 5 action items for the coming 90 days (July, August, September) The below is my 5 self-love actions with final month, end of Sep updates: (my end of August updates and end of July updates)

(1) Read 3 self-love books (1 book by the end of each month)

3rd book checked – Self-improvement 101” by John C Maxwell.

Additional book read: “Social Intelligence: The new science of human relationships” by Daniel Goleman.

(2) One statement per day (30 by each month end)

      • Sep 1 – It’s better to be well prepared than sorry.
      • Sep 2 – There is nothing more important than embracing and standing firmly for certain family values. I am making the changes for a better family life
      • Sep 3 – The easiest and fastest way to change the world is to change ourselves.
      • Sep 4 – Do not let others to decide or to disturb on how I will live through my day today.
      • Sep 5 – Nothing is so urgent in life (don’t have to rush all the time), unless when life itself become urgent (facing life and death situation).
      • Sep 6 – Helping others is like having pollen and seeds spreading around, we never know what kind of flowers, fruits or outcomes it will bring. It is not so much about expecting any return, but rather not to underestimate the impacts that we bring on others. (I encourage myself keep on spreading the seeds of surprises!)

        • Sep 7 – When I start to focus on how much others do for me, I start to realize how little I do for others. 
        • Sep 8 – Loving self is an important life long subject; but we often forget to keep it in the daily program.
        • Sep 9 – Take 2-3 hours to do something I like regularly, i.e. per week, I feel much more with myself and  happy with myself.
        • Sep 10 – Self-improvement is meant for ‘self’, not for others.
        • Sep 11 – Type of life we are living in is reflected in the types of daily activities we do. (if want to change the type of life, we got to change the activities)

  • Sep 12 – if we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we are not really living.” by Gail Sheehy
  • Sep 13 – Growth is certainly a choice; no one says it is easy, but for sure rewarding!
  • Sep 14 – Focus on self-development, not self-fulfillment. (self-development is a bigger goal than self-fulfillment. Self-fulfillment is the by-product benefit of self-development)
  • Sep 15 – Anyone appears in our lives for a reason. I may not understand what is the reason right away, but I am willing to explore and learn more from them.
  • Sep 16 – Resting is preparing for the next heard work!
  • Sep 17 – Finding life purpose calling is not easy (especially we don’t listen to our hearts), but it will come when we start to pay attention.
  • Sep 18 – Sometimes what I think it is good for others may not be the case. Always double check with consideration.
  • Sep 19 – Within an interaction, how I react enrolls how other responses. (meaning if I want my boss to trust me that I am handling everything well, I need to first show my boss I am handling my boss well)
  • Sep 20 – Where I am being myself and expose myself, it does not mean I am weak and vulnerable. I just choose to let others to see the naked me. (don’t have to guess me)
  • Sep 21 – He who dares loving, trying and giving is really living!
  • Sep 22 – Managing self is easier than managing others; nevertheless, we like to manage others first.
  • Sep 23 – A winner knows how much he still has to learn, even when he is considered an expert by others; a loser wants to be considered as an expert before he has learned enough to know how little he knows. by Sydney Harris
  • Sep 24 – Live like there is no next month.
  • Sep 25 – It’s not ‘time’ that we don’t have, it’s self-discipline.
  • Sep 26 – Develop a plan, working toward according to the plan and discipline myself without any excuses.
  • Sep 27 – What is life like with a limited life with unfulfilled potentials?
  • Sep 28 – No matter how busy or tired I am, I am committed to take at least 1 hour a week conversing with myself (i.e.how I am feeling, how I have been, am I happy, how far am I from my personal goals, how is my life/work balance and so on).
  • Sep 29 – Always give self extra credit, support and courage to do things desired.
  • Sep 30 – “The greatest enemy of tomorrow’s success is today’s success” by Rick Warren

(3) Two hours of exercise per week (8.5 hours every month) 65% checked – took an hour every week during lunch time to do some fast walking around the block and 30 minutes stretching each night before going to bed. Certainly over the past 90 days, there were still room to improve; and I keep on telling myself to continue going ahead, not to let yesterday’s failure dis-encourages tomorrow’s success!

(4) Two activities per month that I would love to do with myself (2 activities to share each month) Checked! Take a good bath with oil, home made ice tea with candle and music :) Treat myself with world famous singer concert (Madonna’s concert)!!

(5) Save $100 per month for the thing that I always wanted ($100 more at the end of each month) Checked! Not only I have saved $300, a friend of mine has given me an iPAD as a gift! So wonderful~ it’s like when I start to accumulate wealth, wealth itself multiplies!!! (law of attraction?)

 
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Posted by on October 21, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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Better is not always more complex (2012.W39)

(Ending Sunday 30 September 2012)

Let me introduce you the weekly challenge by a personal story:

Two years ago, I move in with Cindy to a new flat. The flat was very nice, but there were a problem with the elevator. It just stinks, and not just a little. I have talked with neighbors and turned out the smell has always been there. It is impossible to get rid of it…

Few months passed, and I’m still annoyed with this elevator smell. I finally come to a solution. As we can see in the picture below:

I have to say I was quite proud to find this solution. And to my big surprise, people were refilling the perfume tank one after another.

The solution was not a perfect one as the refill is not cheap; and because of the small space of the elevator when pushing for perfume, the odor was quite strong.

It is only few weeks ago while doing gardening that I have the idea to use flower from Thai basilica in the elevator!! To my surprise, few branches of the basilica overcome the bad smell in a most natural way!!

I come to realize that the solution to my problem was so simple. Instead of thinking about the basics using most natural ingredients, I directly consider using ready-made commercial chemical perfume. The device used consists of plastic, metal and gas to spray the perfume. It is so much additional pollution for a small problem of a smell.

I hope I don’t bored you with my story. But it seems, when I share the story to few friends, we tend to over-thinking the problems and directly go for complex solutions, forgetting to look for simple solutions first.

So I encourage you to look carefully on how you deal with uncomfortable situations or annoyances and examine your solutions, see if there is any better and simpler solution.

Feel free to share your discovery and highlight to other reader with your new solutions.

If you want some simpler and interesting solutions/ideas for daily trivial matters: click –> 1, 2, 3.

Challenge: Examine on how we deal with discomforts or annoyances and see if there is better and simpler solution.
Extra Challenge: -
Goals: Make life easier
Time required: Low
Energy level: Low
Preparation: Keep in mind the challenge as you do daily activities

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Don’t forget to share with us your experiences and how your life has changed because of the challenge!!

 
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Posted by on September 24, 2012 in Weekly

 

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Aug update on My 5 self-love actions for the next 90 days (Part 2/3)

Day 30 – Today’s home work: Create a self-love plan of 5 action items for the coming 90 days (July, August, September)

The below is my 5 self-love actions with end of Aug updates:
(my end of July updates)

(1) Read 3 self-love books (1 book by the end of each month)

2nd book checked – Encouragement changes everything by John C Maxwell.

The next book for September is “Self-improvement 101” by John C Maxwell.

(2) One statement per day (30 by each month end)

  • Aug 1 – Encouragement is the oxygen to the soul.
  • Aug 2 – We always have choice to be who we want to be!
  • Aug 3 – It would be easier to hike with the right shoes…
  • Aug 4 – Let no ‘expectation’ traps me into the ‘should be’ situation and disturbs me emotionally.

  • Aug 5 – I am really proud of myself facing up to my weaknesses.
  • Aug 6 – Life is beautiful. I will take time to slow down and enjoy the beauty.
  • Aug 7 – I can do it! I can let go the urge of wanting to be right! 
  • Aug 8 – Empathy is the pillar for an intimate and strong relationship.
  • Aug 9 – At time of difficult moment, take one day at a time; difficult period will eventually pass.
  • Aug 10 – Not to over worry for people or things that I have no control over or not responsible of. 
  • Aug 11 – Relationship requires investment of love, time, energy, compromises, understanding, patience, communication and faith. The more we invest, the more we reap on the way!
  • Aug 12 – Trust is the foundation of a relationship. I will give 100% of trust at the beginning – what do I get to lose?
  • Aug 13 – sometimes we ask for things that we are not ready to receive; in this case, perhaps it’s better that we wait a bit longer.
  • Aug 14 – Waiting for someone else’ to change takes very long time; it is easier to change ourselves first.
  • Aug 15 – Anyone appears in our lives for a reason. I may not understand what is the reason right away, but I am willing to explore and learn from.
  • Aug 16 – I am happy that I am a giver in love and also a taker.
  • Aug 17 – There are so many unfortunate events happening on other people around us; I will cherish what I have, not focus on what i don’t have.
  • Aug 18 – When I start to involve and consider my partner in decision making, from big to small decisions, it’s the time when i really in a relationship.
  • Aug 19 – Sometimes in a relationship, it’s not about what we can do for others, but merely the simple fact if we are there when asked or needed.
  • Aug 20 – To get recognized by others, sometimes is not about how well and how much you have done; but how much you stood up by your achievements.
  • Aug 21 – Always aim for the best and prepare for the worst.
  • Aug 22 – It’s never too late to make an apology.
  • Aug 23 – Do what you can while alive; once when time is up, action ceases.
  • Aug 24 – Be humble; the more we know, the less we know.
  • Aug 25 – Forgive is to forget and let go; not to ignore.
  • Aug 26 – A bold heart is half of the battle.
  • Aug 27 – Less is more. 
  • Aug 28 – The best gifts in life are given when we are not asking for them.
  • Aug 29 – When my partner embraces my temper in silence, it does not mean it doesn’t hurt, so I may abuse it; it means he loves me and my temper more than he loves himself.
  • Aug 30 – Thinking out of box sometimes, it helps thinking in the box!
  • Aug 31 – I may not be the best perfect partner that my partner wishes for; but I am proud of being the partner I am to my partner.

(3) Two hours of exercise per week (8.5 hours every month)

50% checked – only did 4 hours this month :( I would like to focus a bit more in restate my health in Sept!

(4) Two activities per month that I would love to do with myself (2 activities to share each month)

Checked! Finally visited my dream destination, a church in Mogno Switzerland designed by Mario Botha (see below); invited myself to a Japanese restaurant and enjoy food by myself.

(5) Save $100 per month for the thing that I always wanted ($100 more at the end of each month)

Checked! Total $200 by now and I have already bought the pad!!! YEH.. early achievement!

 
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Posted by on August 31, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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30 Days on How to love your partner

Dear Friends and Readers,

After the previous launch of 30 Days on How to love yourself more, I have a great pleasure introducing this coming series of 30 Days on How to love your partner :)  

How our partners love us often reflect how we love them; how we love them is a reflection of how we love ourselves. We project ourselves, our beliefs, needs and wants in love relationship onto our partners both consciously and unconsciously, more than we are aware and knowing of.

I wish going through the coming 30 days together, we may reflect on our current relationship, existing values and behaviors in love (with self and our partners), as well as become more aware of our strengths and vulnerabilities; by making new decisions and taking courageous actions, we may love our partners (and ourselves) more and differently. 

It doesn’t take a master mind to know how to love yourself and your partner; all you need to start with is a willing heart.

Love from Hsing

 
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Posted by on August 1, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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July update on My 5 self-love actions for the next 90 days (Part 1/3)

Day 30 – Today’s home work: Create a self-love plan of 5 action items for the coming 90 days (July, August, September)

The below is my 5 self-love actions with end of July updates:

(1) Read 3 self-love books (1 book by the end of each month)

Checked – “Love Yourself and it doesn’t matter who you marry” by Eva-Maria Zurhorst

The next book for August is Encouragement changes everything by John C Maxwell.

(2) One statement per day (30 by each month end)

  • July 1 – Loving self is something I want to constantly doing in my life; so far I am proud of myself in doing it.
  • July 2 – I want to pursue my goals in life, enrich my personal growth and live to the fullest.
  • July 3 – Be the person I want to be.
  • July 4 – Be positive as always, do not let negative emotions take over.
  • July 5 – I am responsible for my own life and the decisions I have made.
  • July 6 – Not to give up trying until the very very last moment!
  • July 7 – Life is about exploring, taking myself a step further into the unknown.
  • July 8 – True love exists for the ones who believe and have faith in it.

  • July 9 – If by spending a little more allows great enjoyment in exchange and hassle-free, why budge, just spend the money.
  • July 10 – Being rich is not about how much I earn; it’s about how much I can give.
  • July 11 – Before making any compliant on things not being done; take a moment to appreciate how much has already been achieved.
  • July 12 – When I am in the driver seat, I am the boss. I am responsible for the safety not just mine own, but also every single person in the passenger seat. I do my best. If you do not approve my driving skills, take other cars.
  • July 13 – Anger promotes not only mis-communication, but further stop I from hearing what’s being said.
  • July 14 – I am proud of myself that for the past 5 days, I walk more than 15,000 steps every day.
  • July 15 – Instead of trying to control or manage others, it may be more effective and efficient to control, manage and change myself.
  • July 16 – The world does not evolve around me; things cannot just all happen as I wish. Sometimes, I would need to let others have their ways.
  • July 17 – Giving presentation is just like performing a show; always give more than 100% and enjoy the spot light, attention while on the stage!
  • July 18 – Being nervous due to adrenaline rush is to provide for the best performance. Enjoy it!
  • July 19 – Today, I decide to become a patient person.
  • July 20 – Taking some time to relax, be with self and enjoy life, these are absolutely essential!
  • July 21 – Life is what we make out of it! How much we invest is how much we get at the end.
  • July 22 – Always be aware of own physical and mental energy level. If there is any trouble cause, find it, face it and solve it before it gets serious.
  • July 23 – Take away the “I should’, “I need to” in life and change to “I want” –> I may transform self pressure to self motivation.
  • July 24 – The world is not that big; one way or another, we all related to each other.

  • July 25 – Be open minded while chatting with friends, the conversation may be surprising.
  • July 26 – It is not enough just to accept my own weaknesses, but also need (oops –>) want to ensure they do not expand or further develop in a negative direction (keep them in control).
  • July 27 – To be in control or not in control, this is the question.
  • July 28 – It’s an art to master in the area of grey or ambiguity.
  • July 29 – Sleeping is such an enjoyment; over sleeping is over enjoyment!
  • July 30 – As we cannot choose our family members, why not be the best we can be as a family member?
  • July 31 – Mis-communication is better than no communication.

(3) Two hours of exercise per week (8.5 hours every month)

Half checked – only did 4 hours this month :(

(4) Two activities per month that I would love to do with myself (2 activities to share each month)

Checked! Sun bathing by the pool for an afternoon and listening to audio books for the whole afternoon.

(5) Save $100 per month for the thing that I always wanted ($100 more at the end of each month)

Checked!

 
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Posted by on July 31, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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“THE WORK” by Byron Katie ~ Berlin 30th June 2012

We are on a road trip to love ourselves more!! 

We are attending a 1 day workshop in Berlin hosted by Byron Katie whose job is to teach people how to stop suffering. Her developed concept “The Work” is a simple yet powerful process of inquiry that teaches people to identify and question the thoughts that cause all the suffering in the world. It’s a way to understand what’s hurting you, and to address the cause of the problems with clarity.

We will update you the course when we are back!!

Here is a video from youtube about her:

 
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Posted by on June 30, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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My 5 self-love actions for the next 90 days?

Day 30 – Today’s home work: Create a self-love plan of 5 action items for the coming 90 days with (a) what is the action; (b) why you choose this action; and (c) what you want to achieve and (d) by when (include 3 milestones for appreciation).

The below is my 5 self-love actions that I would like to share with you:

(1) Read 3 self-love books

I dedicate 30 minutes everyday (on the way to work and back home on the metro) to read 3 self-love books to enhance my understanding about self-love. By doing so, I may search into myself deeper with the insight or guidance from the books. By the end of 90 days, I am more rich by 3 books.

Milestone: 1 book by the end of every 30 days.

(2) One statement per day

I dedicate one statement per day to myself (when I brush my teeth in the morning or just before I go to bed); the statement may be words of encouragement, self-affirmation, self-appreciation, self-recognition or self-gratitude and so on. The purpose is to fulfill myself with positive energy and be my own positive influence. By the end of 90 days, I will have 90 positive statements for myself.

Milestone: 30 statements every 30 days. (I will keep a log book on what I say to myself everyday and share after every 30 days! Please feel free to do the same!)

(3) Two hours of exercise per week

I take two hours at least per week to exercise and train my body, look after my health. (one hour yoga or running or swimming or hiking) By the end of 90 days, I will have 26 hours exercises.

Milestone: 8.5 hours every 30 days.

(4) Two activities per month that I would love to do with myself

I find two activities that I enjoy and love; take time out to spend with myself to do these activities. By doing these, I enjoy and learn more about myself. I know sometimes doing activities with myself may induce interesting conversation between me and myself. By the end of 90 days, I will have 6 activities enjoyed with myself!

Milestone: 2 activities every 30 days.

(5) Save $100 per month for the thing that I always wanted

I save $100 per month for the thing that I always wanted, but find too expensive to buy for my own pleasure. By doing the saving, I get to pamper myself. By the end of 90 days, I may give a gift to myself!

Milestone: $100 at the end of every month.

 
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Posted by on June 30, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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